Friday, 4 May 2012

How do you find time to?

I have been tagged in a meme called "How do you find time to ..." by Jen at Jens Place.

I'll be honest and say that I don't know what a 'meme' is but it seems quite straight forward to answer a few questions.

BUT I've never been a 'gotta follow all the rules' kind of lady so I decided to change the questions a bit and make them a bit more interesting (sorry to the person that wrote them originally). And hereafter I do declare that all future participants in this little game must also change the questions a bit. do I find the time to....

Do the laundry - Hubby is in charge of the Laundry and as a Swede he takes pride in finding the most efficient way of washing [read no colour sorting allowed]. I can no longer complain about whites changing colour because we have no whites. He has set up two washing machines next to each other and actually takes the time to compare their performance (amongst other criteria) between them.

Write a blog post - As long as Henry is breastfed there will be posts. I can type better with one hand than two now :).

Spend time with your other half? - We are together as a family all day every day. It's truly the most wonderful way to raise children because whenever you are tired you can just handover to the other person. Life takes on a whole new perspective when no one is looking at the clock and waiting for some help. We often don't even know what day of the week it is and that's just the way we like it.

Do fun stuff with your children
- Anything that must be done can be done in a fun way. If I have to cook I can put Freddy on chopping detail. If I have to mop the floor he can mop the floor too. If I want to crochet for 30 minutes he can play with my button collection. It's all about a little preparation and setting the scene. If I say 'do you want to mop the floor?' the response might be no but if I say 'oh I've got an idea - let's make the floor really clean and shiny so we can race cars!' then I guarantee the reply will be 'yes!!'.

Do bulk ironing - Bulk or non bulk there is no ironing being done in this house I can assure you. Freddy even calls our iron 'Nanny' because she is the only person he has seem holding it.

And my new questions......

Be the parent you want to be - This is difficult because I'm not. I want to say yes to every invitation to play that Freddy makes and I want to immediately comfort every cry that Henry makes. But more often than not these things occur at the same time and I hear myself say over and over again 'yes, but I've just got to....'. Also, Freddy seems to want to hit and kick everything and everybody so I often feel totally infuriated and say things like 'why did you hurt him???' instead of helping him to deal with his emotions , learn empathy or whatever the developmental need is that he is experiencing that day. My biggest challenge right now is to be the type of peaceful and loving parent that I really want to be.

Set a good example - My biggest wish on a day to day basis is to be a role model to the children. I think that this can only be authentic and convincing if it is actually the way you live your life and not just a display you put on in front of your children. I believe that model behaviour can only come from a place of love so I try hard to do everything, say everything and act everything from a position of love for myself and others.
Find time for yourself - We have a family clean up each day after dinner where we all tidy up the mess that was made during the day. This meas that once the children are sleeping at around 7.30pm I can spend the evening doing creative things, preparing activities for Freddy or just watching Man vs Food on the internet.

Achieve your dreams -We have a little family policy that we will do everything that we can for each other to fulfill our dreams. I wanted to learn another language so hubby agreed to move to France for me to work here. He wanted to start his own business so I encouraged him to quit is job. We want to use the same policy with our children too so we'll see how we get on with that as they get older :) Most importantly though, you can't achieve your dreams if you don't know what they are so I spend a lot of talk talking to hubby about what our dreams are for ourselves and the family.

Now for the tagging! I chose Sparkling Bay, The Kingdom of the Pink Princesses, Je veux une tite soeur filleSixtine and the Little Things

So for the people that I have just tagged here are the (new) rules:
  1. Please post the rules
  2. When answering the questions, give as much information as possible.
  3. Leave a comment on Sex, drugs, rocker…and stroller,baby. This is so we can keep track of the Meme and take a polite nose into everyone else’s lives.
  4. Tag 3 or more people and link to them on your blog.
  5. Add new questions, delete old questions and play about with the rules.


  1. I love your new questions :)

  2. Thanks for tagging me! I don't know what's a meme, maybe some kind of memo? I will try to do it in French / and in English :-)

  3. It's as though you are listening in on my phone conversations! :D I can very much relate to that section titled Be the Parent You Want to Be. It's a joy to read your blog, it reads to me like you are smiling from the inside out. That is quite wonderful.

    1. Bless you Charrisa, little Walter's a lucky boy xx

  4. Thanks for tagging me! I will complete this in the next few days - back to paid work for a while tomorrow. The new questions are great. i love how you talk so much to the hub, and follow the dreams.

    1. Thanks Rach,
      but please don't feel like you have to do this :)

  5. Didn't realize I was tagged...luckily, Mymy was there to let me know! Love your answers to the questions. You are a very inspiring wife,mother, and human being Miss Rachael. I have never answered memes before but I will answer yours ;)


    ps: I had to giggle at your "Man vs Food" comment. I watched it all the time when I was pregnant!

    1. omg MvF is the best!
      I actually deliberately didn't tell anyone because personally I'm not a bit fan of these things. I don't like the pressure of feeling like you have to do it especially when it is your blog anyway lol. It's like those things that people post on facebook saying if you don't share this you obviously hate old people etc etc x

  6. I love when he eats spicy food and sweats like crazy! ;)
    I posted the questions to your answers on my blog:



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